Grief Is Not a Problem to Be Solved. It Is a Loss to Be Honored.

I did not choose this work. It chose me. Thirty years of watching how people break and how they heal. Fifteen years of sitting with people in the most honest and most painful moments of their lives. And a lifetime of being the person in the room who asks the questions nobody else is asking.

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A Personal Note from Dilys

I know grief from the inside. Not as a theory or a framework but as a lived experience that changed the trajectory of my life and my work. My book Not This Widow was born from that experience, and from the belief that grief deserves to be met honestly rather than managed into silence. That experience is why I do this work.

A woman in a white and black patterned dress speaking at a podium in a conference room with two abstract paintings on the wall behind her.
A woman sitting on a black leather chair, holding a microphone, with a serious expression. She is wearing a sleeveless dress with a black and white pattern, and has her legs crossed. There is a wooden wall in the background, and a table with a water bottle, glass, and some papers in front of her.
A woman standing at a podium giving a presentation, with a large screen to her right displaying a PowerPoint slide.
A woman with dark hair, large glasses, and jewelry, speaking into a microphone in front of a whiteboard with notes about procrastination, inside a room with large windows showing a grassy outdoor landscape.

// You Do Not Have to Be Widowed to Need This

Grief is not only the loss of a person. It is the loss of a relationship, a marriage, an identity, a version of your future you had already begun to imagine.

It is any loss that has not been fully honoured and that continues to live in you. This coaching is for anyone carrying a loss that has not been properly met.

// What Grief Coaching Involves

This is a coaching relationship that creates genuine, unhurried space for you to name what you have lost, understand how it has affected you, and begin moving through rather than around what you are carrying. We work at your pace. There is no agenda other than your honesty and your healing.

Book cover titled "Not This Window" by Dily Sillah featuring a woman in black clothing and a large black hat, reading or speaking at a lectern with a microphone.
Book cover titled "Not This Window" by Dily Sillah featuring a woman in black clothing and a large black hat, reading or speaking at a lectern with a microphone.

MY BOOK

Not This Widow

A Journey of Grief: Love, Loss, Strength and Survival. A deeply personal account of grief, loss, and the journey back to yourself after bereavement. For anyone who has ever been told to be strong when what they needed was to be held. Available in shop.

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